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Hi Stan,

I'm really glad I landed on this post. I spent a good part of last evening reading through a few other posts in this series. I'm not a Buddhist, but a few years back a friend of mine was sucked in to DJKR's vortex, and I've watched with a growing sense of dismay, the changes I've noticed in them since.

He didn't come across as glaringly repulsive as a figure like Trungpa, Sogyal etc, and I found myself having to pay careful attention in order to build some language scaffolding around the growing unease I experienced from engaging with his perspectives. Over a few years now two sets of patterns emerged, and thought to share them here.

Pattern 1:

Self-depreciation, followed somewhat predictably with sweeping absolute claims about Buddhism. It's intriguing how this somewhat cliched, textbook move, never quite grows old. Perhaps its elegance is in how it continues to disarm audiences, lowers resistance, while increasing perception of authenticity.

Eg - At the 2nd Global Buddhist Summit a month or so ago he opens with

“Organizers made a mistake in inviting me… I create havoc… I don’t know if I’m a follower of the Buddha…” followed by "Buddhism as the pinnacle of mind-science... not been challenged or disputed for 2500 years.....and will not be for centuries.”

It's a sharp move, for all its apparent charm and innocence, suspending genuine dialogical openness, and placing Buddhism beyond critique. I noticed you seemed to have caught on to this, the steps leading up to how DJKR places anything he wishes to defend beyond critique.

Pattern 2: (I feel you shed some excellent clarity in your article, on this)

A fairly consistent relocating abuse crises away from accountability into tantric metaphysics and lineage defense.

- Abuse allgation arises

- Response reframes into Samaya, view, Ultimate Truth, continuity of Dharma.

- Accountability becomes secondary.

- Students are asked to metabolize the crisis internally.

- Institutional structure remains intact.

I found this quite challenging to articulate this initially, because he's often using the language of empowerment to do it. Overtime, what I've come to suspect, is that it's not even that accountability becomes secondary, but more... unnecessary. It's not so much a denying of the abuse, as rendering it irrelevant. The sorrow, (for me at least) is not even so much that it's about the protection of Buddha dharma, but that it turns it in to untouchable dogma, untethered from responsibility, and eventually the Dharma becomes the delivery system for harm.

Your use of what I perceive as a very sharp, penetrating, subtle form of humour in how you portray him, is.... gorgeous, for lack of a better word, Thanks for these writings, I hope more people come into contact with them.

David Hunt's avatar

DARVO - Distract, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender - classic gaslighting. Seen these days in the "manosphere" whenever it is questioned.

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